Many people experience anxiety. Counselling provides the opportunity talk to another person about the nature of the anxiety whether it is general anxiety, social anxiety, performance anxiety. Counselling also provides education on the physical symptoms of anxiety. In a safe and respectful environment the client is helped to feel empowered to deal with and conquer their anxiety .
Abuse can be suffered in childhood and leave a person feeling wounded and powerless. The individual may think they have forgotten about the abusive relationship but not be able to explain their reactions to certain situations as an adult. Counselling allows them the space to find their voice and inner strength to heal and move on.
If a person is suffering ongoing abuse, counselling provides a safe place for them to explore their options.
Adoption can have an impact on many of the people whose lives it has touched. From the mother whose child was adopted, to the adoptee, to the extended family of those involved. Counselling provides an opportunity to explore and express feelings and address the particular issues created by the adoption.
Losing a significant person in one’s life can throw up a whole host of emotions from denial to complete distress. Counselling provides the supportive space for a person who is struggling with bereavement to express all aspects of their loss and to discover ways of living with the loss.
More prevalent than we like to admit, bullying can begin at preschool and continue to haunt someone well into adulthood. Counselling is an ideal place to heal from childhood bullying, bullying experienced at school and workplace bullying. The work involves building self-esteem and devel0ping assertiveness skills to challenge the perpetrator and put an end to the bullying.I work with clients to reframe their bullying experience and to build confidence in themselves so that they can be more resilient to further bullying.
In a non-judgmental environment a person who has engaged in bullying behaviours in the past can develop self-awareness and practice new and healthier ways to communicate.
Affecting one in four of us at some stage in our lives, depression, if untreated, can have debilitating effects on our wellbeing and performance. Counselling offers an opportunity to address what is triggering feelings of depression and to develop skills to combat depression effectively.
Low self-esteem holds an individual back from reaching their potential in life. Counselling tackles issues of low self-esteem in a gentle and encouraging way to achieve an improvement in self-esteem and quality of life.
Sometimes clients present with what they refer to as “anger management issues”. I inform them that I believe that anger is an acceptable emotion but it is how it is expressed that is important. Counselling helps to dispel unhelpful messages that in individual may have learned about anger. It helps also to assist people to communicate assertively instead of choosing aggression to get their needs met.
Counselling provides a space for an individual or couple to explore what is not working in their relationships. Sometimes people develop bad habits in how they communicate with their partner and counselling offers an unbiased view of the issues and the skills to communicate more effectively. Within the counselling environment the couple or individual can decide whether staying together is the best option for them.
Counselling is about developing awareness. When we become more aware of ourselves we can address what we don’t like and work to our strengths. Acceptance is a vital part of self-development and counselling assists an individual to accept themselves as a fallible human being. It is the nature of the non-judgmental counselling relationship that assists the client in self-acceptance . When I work with a client I see them as an equal human being, no better or worse than myself. In a caring manner I express how I experience the individual in an effort to shed light on how others may experience them. In this way the person is invited to change the attitudes and behaviours that are causing problems in their life and to develop the strengths that bring happiness to them.
Stress can arise from under activity or over activity. Whatever the source of stress, it is important to find ways to reduce its impact, as our physical and mental health can be put under strain with excessive stress.
Counselling provides the opportunity for an individual to examine the stressors in their life. With reflection and space, an individual can look at alternatives and less stressful behaviours.